Posted by: janedb | March 31, 2013

First Month

The first month involved getting the phone connected as there was no working phone line or WiFi.  BT were brilliant, I explained about having to leave my previous house due to domestic abuse and they offered a very quick re connection ,sorted out the sending of a modem and two phones I could rent.

Eon were fabulous too, as when I moved into the property the previous tenants had a electricity pay as you go meter without the landlords knowledge. This was costing me a fortune and because I had been a customer at my previous house and they knew the reason for my changing address, they fitted a normal meter at no charge.

I have to thank everyone for their help they gave me before and during the move.  Everyone who I told why I was leaving helped above and beyond what was in their job descriptions.  Men appologised for my ex’s behavior, I don’t hate men, I just do not trust myself to choose a decent man.

It was hard to be a single parent, although my ex was frightening he still did things (not much but somethings), now everything that was required to be done was down to me.  It was also the thought of not having anyone to discuss the boys with, not that he ever made any decisions, were now down solely to me.  My parents have been fabulous and have become more involved when I have asked them to.  They seem also to be enjoying the closeness with their grandchildren.

The boys settled quickly into the new routine and were more relaxed than they had been in years.  I do not think the youngest had ever been in a normal family situation, his dad became more and more strange after I conceived him.  Looking back he was jealous of the time I spent on the boys and resented having to be responsible because we had them.  He never wanted to grow up, still listening to the same music he had at 16.

Looking back I should probably never have had my second son because of how his dad was, but the eldest had Leukemia just before he was two and a half and I desperately wanted another child to know what it was like to have a normal, well child.  I also did not want the eldest to be an only child.  Now we have moved I do not feel as guilty, the longer we are away from their dad, the more they will recover from his behavior.


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